Why Men Don't Listen

Is he going to his cave?

Scenario:

You're having a rough day, and all you want to do is vent to someone who cares about you. As you open your mouth and starting getting into detail, it seems that his mind is elsewhere.

OR

You both are going through an issue. Perhaps you or him are traveling or you're gonna be away from each other for some while. Regardless, it's creating stress for both you and him. You want to talk about it; however, he prefers to busy himself with minute things like video games, football, or any other personal hobby he has. You wanna talk about the situation, but he's just in a different world.

Frustrating right?

I'm sure everyone at one point has to deal with this. Alas, do not fret.

The cure to confusion, stress, and obstacles is understanding.

Ladies, we all have have ways of coping with stress. Ours happens to be talking. But men like to do things a little differently. Typically, men like to solve problems. If they don't solve a problem immediately, they feel inadequate. So they have to sometimes spend hours and days dwelling on on their problems, pondering how to solve them.

Sometimes, they like to distract themselves with other minor problems to feel as if they are making progress. Examples of distraction would be physical exercise, playing video games, watching football, watching TV, driving, etc. Most of their mind is set on trying to fix their problems while a small portion of their attention is reserved to the relationship. So, by engaging in their distracting activities, he only needs that small portion of attention to forget his problems, feel a release, and attack the problems better tomorrow.

He's just trying to fix the problem, ladies. He doesn't mean to keep you in the dark or ignore you. Sometimes men are unaware of the fact that they are not diverting the attention you deserve. But that does not mean he does not care. He does. He's just having a rough time. Men are just different from women. You don't typically see men being completely responsive and open about their feelings just as you don't see women being completely rational about their feelings when they are coping with stress. We just let it all out and don't think about being calm and making sense. Understanding that this cave of his is a coping mechanism will allow you to realize that he cares about you, and he just needs support.

Just give him space, and don't take the cave personal. He'll come out soon enough. They just need to feel loved and accepted.

Although, it is good to mention any feelings you have about feeling distant, for men sometimes forget about the problems of those he cares about. Men need to understand women's needs too.

Good luck!